“Power of Being Alone”
Being alone is not the same as being lonely; it brings out your inner beauty. When you’re alone, you’re surrounded with a lot of thoughts, sometimes too uncontrolled that you want to escape it. But once you love that calmness, silence and peacefulness of being alone. It becomes addicting, addicting why? Because you start exploring within, you start to see for yourself, for your life, you start to observe which you have never done.
So think about it, when was the last time you have been alone with yourself. When I say alone, I don’t mean it with loneliness that’s another concept, will discuss about it in some other post.
Being alone has increased the ability of great artists, writers, poets, and thinkers to create works of art for centuries. Interestingly, in medieval times, to be “alone” meant “completeness of one’s self.” In religious terms, it meant a spiritual “oneness.” It’s only been in our modern era that being alone signified a lack of something, being anti-social, or a constant state of loneliness.
Not all creative people are introverted, but many are. In fact, in the benchmark book titled, Flow, Dr. Mihaly Csikszentmihaly suggests, “…exceptional creators are more likely to be introverted.”
The author of The Call of Solitude: Alonetime in a World of Attachment, Ester Buchholz, argues that “our need for time alone is as powerfully driven as our need for attachment.” It’s a necessary element of human existence, influencing creativity and intimacy.
So maybe I’m not weird. Maybe I’m just keenly attuned to the power of quiet time away from other people. Maybe I’m addicted to the “high” that solitude has injected into my life over and over again.
I’m not alone among the millions of other people who enjoy being alone. The model for “deliberate” self-isolation is Henry David Thoreau, who along with other great thinkers provide insights into the power of solitude: “I am no more lonely than the loon in the pond that laughs so loud, or than Walden Pond itself. What company has that lonely lake, I pray? And yet it has not the blue devils, but the blue angels in it, in the azure tint of its waters…
As Thoreau points out, being alone brings out the inner beauty. The lake glows with a myriad of moving blues when it’s alone. The true essence of a person is exuded like a precious perfume when it doesn’t have to compete with social norms, other people, and conflicting agendas. Being alone increases creativity/ productivity. There’s a reason writing coaches and mental health experts advise turning off the social media and the electronic distractions we suffer in this modern age.
Not only can too many activities, responsibilities, and too much attention to social media cause anxiety, depression, body-image issues, but they also suck the focus away from your current project, interrupting that all-important “flow.” Being isolated from others — both electronically and physically — increases productive creativity.
When you will be alone, you will emerge stronger, both mentally and socially. You’ll learn to trust in your own ideas: “In solitude the mind gains strength and learns to lean upon itself.” — Laurence Sterne.
You’ll be more emotionally stable, better able to deal with the rest of the world. (And that’s a good thing!) Thoreau describes it as growing a butterfly bursting forth from a cocoon: You think that I am impoverishing myself withdrawing from men, but in my solitude, I have woven for myself a silken web or chrysalis, and, nymph-like, shall ere long burst forth a more perfect creature, fitted for a higher society.
You’ll learn to love your own company — more than ever before. Maybe even a little too much. “Solitude is dangerous. It’s addicting. Once you see how peaceful it is, you don’t want to deal with people.” — Anonymous.
The world is changing. The new world might be one that requires more alone time than we’ve ever had before. (Maybe I won’t have to feel so apologetic about requiring so much of it.) Whatever happens, however our lives change, the experience of solitude will always enhance our lives.
Picture credit – Trang Nguyen
– SATYAM KUSUM MISHRA
**This content is written by Satyam Kusum Mishra, owner and founder of selfgrowth.energy. One must not copy and use this article is without his permission.**
“Sometimes, you need to be alone. Not to be lonely, but to enjoy your free time being yourself.”
CREDIT- SATYAM KUSUM MISHRA